tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8598862945390612019.post5500012911983448463..comments2023-10-23T08:57:26.585-07:00Comments on thoughts of a doctor's wife: marriage: bliss & sacrificeLizhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02824477197382240833noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8598862945390612019.post-38360858187836965532012-02-14T07:04:57.945-08:002012-02-14T07:04:57.945-08:00I love your wisdom! You are so right. I love givin...I love your wisdom! You are so right. I love giving my husband what he wants, and also encouraging him (us) to work hard and anticipate things we might want in the future. <br /><br />I once heard some great advice: if you know what someone wants, what would make them happy, why would you give them anything different. I have had to remind myself of this many times, and it has a few different levels. I am thinking specifically of your reader. She is obviously doing what she thinks would make him happy, but is he doing the same for her? Is there something that he knows that she wants that would make her happy that he doesn't/can't give. If he knows and refuses to give it - that may be a red flag.From A Doctors Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02410694740641116438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8598862945390612019.post-31681774322508363602012-02-13T20:57:00.542-08:002012-02-13T20:57:00.542-08:00Love this response. Thanks, Jamie!!Love this response. Thanks, Jamie!!Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02824477197382240833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8598862945390612019.post-24337796698995041902012-02-13T17:32:25.502-08:002012-02-13T17:32:25.502-08:00Interesting...
The fact is, situations like this ...Interesting...<br /><br />The fact is, situations like this (the guy not paying enough attention to a birthday) happen ALL THE TIME in marriage. No, it is not a red flag. The red flag was when he failed to propose long ago. If these things are truly important to this intelligent, committed girl, I think she needs to have an open, respectful conversation with her guy. I'm assuming he loves her a lot, and if he realized how important these things were to her, he would bend over backward to make them happen! <br /><br />If she politely explained her feelings to him and he still behaved the same, then THAT might be a red flag. My guess is that he simply doesn't know how strongly she feels about marriage OR birthdays. :)Jamie Lambhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05545375584768570518noreply@blogger.com