tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8598862945390612019.post8860862039862885262..comments2023-10-23T08:57:26.585-07:00Comments on thoughts of a doctor's wife: being niceLizhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02824477197382240833noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8598862945390612019.post-16089043391261416752012-03-19T21:51:21.670-07:002012-03-19T21:51:21.670-07:00That was a great article. Thank you for sending i...That was a great article. Thank you for sending it! I do think love is the most powerful way to motivate each other, and I often feel that my biggest challenge in teaching my children is being able to motivate them. I don't so much think about being friends with my children. I remember thinking - even in 3rd grade - that my own mom was a bit clueless / out of touch - and now she is one of my absolute best friends! I think I assume if that ever happens (that we are friends) then it will happen later. I worry more about teaching them how to make good choices without infringing on their free agency. Oh my, my eye is twitching just thinking about it!Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02824477197382240833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8598862945390612019.post-30618328093664419042012-03-14T16:58:30.998-07:002012-03-14T16:58:30.998-07:00This post reminds me of what I read from January&#...This post reminds me of what I read from January's Ensign about George Albert Smith. Being loving and nice has been on my mind a lot lately too! Here's what George Albert Smith said:<br /><br />“It is our duty—I should say it is our privilege as well as our duty to take sufficient time to surround our children with safeguards and to so love them and earn their love that they will be glad to listen to our advice and counsel.”<br /><br />I've been trying so hard to be careful with how I talk to my kids lately, because honestly...I'm going for results here, not simply inflicting justice! (I keep trying to tell myself that!) My most difficult child has quite the temper. It's been so helpful lately to just get him to spill (politely and in private) his feelings to me, rather than just me lecturing him. I can literally see his little eyes open up and trust me again--enough so that he makes an effort to improve. (that is huge!) Once his feelings are all spoken, THEN I kindly do my best to teach him. <br /><br />Here's the link to the article I read...I never knew much about George Albert Smith before, but now I just love him!<br /><br />http://www.lds.org/ensign/2012/01/george-albert-smith-he-lived-as-he-taught?lang=eng<br /><br />Love hearing your insights, Liz--you're great!Jamie Lambhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07292733472939204184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8598862945390612019.post-54324895313096508322012-03-14T10:01:11.698-07:002012-03-14T10:01:11.698-07:00From my experience, you want your kids to fear you...From my experience, you want your kids to fear you (to a reasonable and healthy point) going into their teen years. They should fear that they will be in trouble if they are out of line or knowingly make a misstep. Being nice got me no where.<br />I remind them I was put on this earth to be their mother, not their friend. I am their superior and they need to learn how to properly respect their superiors. <br />They learn how to treat others by observing how we treat our spouses, friends and family.<br />I tell them I will be their friend once they have completed their education and are settled, THEN I'll be their friend... Right now, I've got a job to do.<br />Good luck, it's a tough job! ;)Your Doctor's Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18010888083503743747noreply@blogger.com