WOULD YOU DO IT AGAIN?
The initial decision to go to medical school and/or to support a spouse going to medical school is a huge decision. My husband and I deliberated for hours and days and weeks on whether it was a journey we wanted to embark on together.
We asked multiple physicians during my husband's undergraduate studies whether they would "do it again." Every single one of them said no, except for one who assured us that every one else that had said no had lied. The others assured us that there were plenty of other more satisfying, more lucrative, much shorter, and much easier paths to take. Another physician explained to us that whenever two doctors meet, there is an immediate connection because of the understanding of what (traumatic training) both have been through.
The most common warning that I received was that "doctors' wives are never happy."
Still, we both felt it was the path we wanted to take. Our personalities like a challenge, I guess.
However, I never really questioned whether it was the 'right' thing or the 'best' thing for us. It seemed automatic and completely worth it - all along. That was probably helpful for me. If I had questioned it, it may have been much harder to endure the difficult times.
QUESTIONS TO ASK
Many people ask us about our decision to go to medical school, and whether we think it is the right decision for them.
My husband always asks whether the medical student hopeful LOVES to study.
Medical schools seem to accept people who are passionate. It requires a lot of hard work and dedication to survive the rigors of medical school and residency.
I always ask whether the spouse is willing to support the student/resident without actually getting to spend a lot of time with them, and live with very limited resources for many years. For some people these are real concerns, but for others these are small sacrifices.
I think one key to surviving this process is the ability of a person to be happy in their current circumstances, whatever they may be.
Since being accepted into medical school, my husband and I have been inundated with questions regarding how to survive the pre-med, medical school, and medical residency years. My husband and I were married while he was studying for his undergraduate degree. At the time, he was teetering between studying medicine and business. Thus, I was involved with his initial decision to become a doctor and every other detail involved in the long process, up until now. Hopefully this blog will provide some answers to those looking.