Most of the times in my life that I have gotten into "trouble" have been when I offered advice about disciplining other people's children. My own children really could not be more stubborn, prideful, strong-willed, and difficult sometimes, (from their dad, of course), so disciplining is a huge issue at our house. But, I feel like this is one of the most important things we learn as parents. Really. So I thought I would post a bit about how we discipline.
A Chinese proverb states: "Parents who are afraid to put their foot down usually have children who step on their toes."
I picked up this book when my oldest son was two-years old. I have referred to it every time he has frustrated me since then - which means I have read it multiple times! It is a great book.
Our latest challenge has been with our older children not listening, and us not responding correctly because we are in over our heads with craziness. They are talking back more and ignoring our requests (to clean up, etc.), because usually we are too busy to notice if they have listened, and too busy to follow up with a time-out if they have not. And the kids have so noticed this!
Our seven-year old has started telling little white lies and our five-year old has started being sassy. Just yesterday I had to recommit myself to noticing and putting them on time-out for these behaviors. Usually it only takes one or two times before the behavior stops. But, I have to be consistent about how I react and discipline them, and teach them what is acceptable and appropriate.
It is interesting that as we discipline our children, we learn to be more disciplined ourselves.
Anyways! I can't get into too much trouble if I post this on the blog, right? (Having a one-sided conversation is so great, sometimes.) Oh yes, and it is actually me that is totally prideful and stubborn, not my husband. Isn't it fun to see what your kids have inherited from you?