Wednesday, April 24, 2013

so many questions about sex...

There have been quite a few questions on my blog about sex - particularly the frequency of it in a medical marriage relationship.  Every relationship and individual are so unique, I wasn't sure (at all!) how to answer any of the questions.  So, when a friend sent me a link to this article, I thought maybe it could be useful to someone else reading on here:  How Often Should Married Couples Have Sex?  

A few interesting points:

* More experts now believe that sex is "a more emotional experience for men than for women".
* A social psychologist: "For some men, sex may be their primary way of communicating and expressing intimacy."
* A licensed marriage and family therapist: "Take sex away and [men] don't have the chemical stimulants that give them a sense of well being."
* A recent study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science: "People are better able to sustain desire when they are motivated to meet their partner's sexual needs, even when these needs conflict with their own preferences.
* Lead author in study: "We think people higher in sexual communal strength are more focused on positive outcomes in their relationship... They are having sex to enhance intimacy and feel closer to their partner rather than to please themselves, and this is what leads them to feel higher desire."

Interesting, huh?  I think in general everything in marriage is similar to that... the more we sacrifice for each others' happiness, the happier we ourselves become.  I think I am very lucky to have a husband who is always willing (and eager, actually) to talk about our relationship.  He is very respectful and open about his emotional and physical needs.  I don't think this is the norm... and especially realized this after reading that article...


From A Doctors Wife said...

You always post the most interesting articles! It was a great read. I do have to add that this crazy medical life throws some curve balls in the sexual intimacy arena. First you both have to be awake at the same time! Harder than it sounds.

Jamie Lamb said...

Very tastefully said, as always.