This article in the Wall Street Journal, Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior, has completely changed me. Or, at least I predict it will immediately revolutionize my current method of parenting. My mom sent it to me. I read it out loud to my husband, laughing quietly - almost to the point of tears, but inside, feeling a secret, insatiable hunger being filled.
Just last night we were visiting with friends over ice cream and one said, "I don't understand how their (Chinese) kids can accomplish so much. I wonder if they sleep less."
I have spent the last six months debating whether or not to engage daily in frightening arguments over homework (oh my goodness), and keep my kids in piano lessons to increase the number of daily, totally exhausting vocal battles. It is so refreshing to discover that... it is okay, and it is actually a vital part of helping children discover the (huge!) benefits of never giving up. It makes sense that the confidence to build this fearlessness and competitiveness has to be built over time, and requires many experiences of attempting to master something.
Wow, it all feels so exciting, when previously, the thought of it all simply exhausted me - completely. Now I can't wait until after my kids come home from school tomorrow afternoon!