I've learned lately that my husband HAS TO BE HERE when it comes to disciplining our children.
In the past, I have consistently pushed things under the table, and been obsessed with encouraging his interactions with the kids be nothing but positive.
But, now I think I will take it all back.
My kids, particularly my oldest son right now, need to be disciplined by their dad, and me. My husband had a long talk with my son the other day about listening to and responding to my requests, and taught him a simply rule: always show respect to your mom.
The change was immediately noticeable.
How simple it was. How painless for me. How important a conversation for my son, and my husband.
So, after witnessing that, why do I still find myself trying to sugar coat everything for my husband? I think sometimes I only want positive interactions between my kids and my husband because he is home so infrequently. But, now I know first-hand how wonderful it is to have my husband involved in disciplining our children, and how incredibly effective and necessary it is, so why is it still so hard?
I guess I'm writing this so that I will remember it more - and forget about making their nightly interactions as unrealistic as possible.