Saturday, August 25, 2012

oh, how to avoid being sappy...

I just finished reading These is my Words, The Diary of Sarah Agnes Prine, by Nancy E. Turner.  I had mixed emotions during my experience with the novel, but ended up with tears and a full heart.  It reminded me in a powerful way how important my relationships with other women are, my mother, my sisters and sister-in-law, my friends, my neighbors.  I appreciated her descriptions of how lonely and sad she felt, how overwhelmed with responsibilities and tedious daily duties, yet how happy and in love she and her husband were during the hectic years of raising young children.  I found myself identifying with the heroine many times, and seeing too many similarities between her husband and mine.  It was sometimes sappy, sometimes predictable, and sometimes tiring to read of death, danger, tragedy, sadness page after page, but I felt rewarded in the end, and fell in love with my husband all over again.

Quite a few comments made lately about being married to a doctor have painted quite a dismal view of what it is like... for some.  I am sure that no matter what one's profession is there are downsides to the marriage; plus, let's face it, being married is not easy - all of the time - as we sometimes may think it should be.  Don't get me wrong, I think being married to a doctor has specific (and huge) challenges, especially during the medical training.  I started this blog because I wanted to create a place for people in similar circumstances to gain strength and perspective, to support each other, and also provide insights to those just beginning the journey.  So, in response to so many depressing views of being married to  doctor, I leave this:  because my husband and I are experiencing so many of the natural, unavoidable and challenging accompanying side effects of residency life, I believe we are able to not only experience but also recognize more acutely and appreciate more fully the happiness we feel together.  So, because couples endure the common challenges in a medical marriage (many of which are outlined in the comments), they are also able to experience the exact opposite: fun, joyful and absolutely wonderful moments - that literally, (not to be too sappy) make it all worth it. 

1 comment:

From A Doctors Wife said...

I loved that series too, and generally enjoy reading books where the characters experience danger, tragedy and death over the fairy tale, everything always turns out roses kind of books. I thought many of the same things. I would read something a go "I am so glad that wasn't me", or "there is no way I could do that".